I've discovered something important about my ability to write. I can only write when I am alone. Unfortunately, my wife is a graduate student who is done taking classes, and therefore does 90% of her work from home. This means that even though I have tons of spare time due to not working, I don't have the ability to write because I am never adequately alone. (The only reason I'm able to write today because my wife is out of town.)
What is further frustrating is that my wife actually works better when she is out of the apartment. She does better when she's away. I do better when she's away. Yet, for some reason I haven't figured out yet, she always stays at the apartment.
My wife has a lot of trouble getting out of bed in the morning. I honestly haven't ever seen anything like it before, even with college students. I literally bring breakfast and coffee to her in bed every morning in the hope that she'll actually wake up. (And this is around 9:30 in the morning--otherwise she'll stay there until at least 11.) Then she never has the energy to actually leave the apartment, even though I've told her numerous times that I need her to leave so I can do my work.
What further amazes me is that she gets upset with me that I haven't been doing much writing (and especially not the writing she wants me to do). The reality is that I have to take the few times she is away to recover from her being there and do paid freelance and tutoring prep work so we can pay bills. So, in reality, I was getting more writing done when I was working 65 hours per week with an abusive boss, being very active in my church, and had friends I spent some time with than now that I am married and working maybe 20 hours per week.
As you might be able to tell, I'm frustrated. I love my wife, but pretty much every agreement we had made as far as time and space issues she has broken. The aspie in me hates it when people violate agreements with me.
I could vent a lot more, but I have to go. One of my wife's friends was supposed to pick something up from here an hour ago, but didn't show up. I now have to take care of some errands that are clearly my wife's responsibility (dealing with her ridiculously expensive hobby) that she didn't get to before she left town because she had trouble getting up in the morning. Maybe I can post to some of my other blogs this evening...