There are obviously two aspects of this: living with Asperger's and living the Christian life. Today I'm going to try to examine how they intersect and some additional complications that arise when combining the two.
What seems to be the most difficult thing for most Christian aspies is living in Christian community. Churches, unfortunately, do not do a good job of integrating people with Aspie tendencies. I'm even "church boy" (as my wife calls me) and I have had lots of trouble with this. I think one key is choosing your church very carefully. The pastor at my old church had a phrase to describe the congregation: "Characters Welcome" (which I think he stole from a cable television network). I was in a congregation of a lot of other odd people, so my own eccentricities didn't really matter. Now I am at my wife's church. My eccentricities do matter and I find it to be a constant struggle to not stick out as much. Even after teaching the adult education class for three months and being in a small group with the pastor, I still don't feel like I've been accepted into the congregation. My Christian fellowship has turned primarily into an online thing (and I don't do as much of that as I should). It's not ideal, but at least I can interact with other Christians in cyberspace who accept me in all my oddities. I have a lot more to say about this, but it probably needs to be reserved for a future post.
Having Asperger's seems to make my devotional life easier. Having such a strong need for routine makes the spiritual disciplines very natural. This is something my wife struggles with tremendously because she is by nature very chaotic. To keep up the spiritual discipline, I just wake up before her (which isn't hard at all). But having the discipline isn't the same as having meaningful time with God. I find an inverse relationship between the amount of time I have to spend with other people and the quality of the time I spend with God. When I am exhausted from having to navigate the social norms of human interaction, I'm sometimes too tired to focus on my time with God. I haven't gotten to the point yet where God is a continual refuge. While I certainly feel it when I get a few days to myself and can dwell in His presence, normal life doesn't work out that way for me very often. Marriage has certainly put a damper in that.
This week my wife is out of town visiting her family, so I have had greater opportunity to spend time with God, but there is a barrier. I live in my wife's apartment. Yes, we've been married for seven months, but I still think of it as her apartment because I would never set up an apartment like this. I have my room, but I still live in her place. As odd as this might seem to most people, this does hamper my devotional life. I don't feel like I can fully relax because I am never in my own space. When I lived in my own place, this was never a problem (unless I could hear my neighbors). But now, my time with God always feels like it has been invaded by outsiders who are trying to interfere with it.
Unlike many, I haven't found serving God with Asperger's to be all that difficult. The biggest barrier is having other people block your ability to serve. I traditionally get around this by using my "special interests" to serve. By being much more qualified than other available people, people running ministries look past my oddness and let me do the things I do better than anyone else. I have written more in depth on that topic here so I won't expand any further.
I guess to sum everything up, living as a Christian with Asperger's isn't easy, but I don't know that it's any harder than for anyone else. Living the Christian life is hard. We let too many things get in the way and distract us from our relationship with God. All of us, Aspie or not, need to re-order our lives so that God is first and do what we need to do to have that happen.